Warning: this post will offend some…perhaps many.

I usually am one to keep my controversial opinions to myself until I know where someone stands. Sure, I have offensive opinions but as a peace keeper at heart, I don’t spew them randomly. Well, today is another day, huh? So, I’m sure this will offend a few of you.

When do people get the “God Complex”? When does a person say, “I have the power to make this decision so, fuck you, I’ll make it.” Or maybe they say, “who cares, I’ll make the decision you want no matter who it hurts.”  Perhaps greed is the catalyst. Desire for power? Desire for more money? Hell, just the adrenalin rush that comes from making a big decision?

Case #1: I have a cousin who married a woman with several children. She went to jail [I don’t know why.] On furloughs or conjugal visits she got pregnant with him and had twins. Still in jail, she, again, got pregnant and had another baby. [I lay no claim to his intelligence, either!!]  He was accused of harming one of his stepdaughters and was sentenced to jail. [I have not seen him nor his family in 25 years. Have never met his stepchildren. I don’t know if he is innocent or guilty.] So, his 3 children were taken away and sent to live with his parents in the same town as my parents. They have had many issues, having no memory of their mother, very little contact with their father in the 4 1/2 years they have been away, and their grandparents have done amazing things with them! Mother got out of jail and after six months of telephone court hearings [Mother lives on the other side of the country] the judge decided to remove the children from the only home they remember and return them to a virtual stranger. [the baby was barely able to walk when they moved in with the grandparents.] Even in print, I find this unbelievable. This judge…this one man, who never met these kids, never met my aunt & uncle can just flap his gavel on the table and POOF! decide the fate of an entire family. 

The children are very close to my parents and when they got the news that they were to move across country and everyone they know they dissolved in tears in my mother’s arms. She, in turn, was so shocked she began to cry. They are so devastated and terrified. They even told the judge they didn’t want to go.

Mom and I have been discussing the saga since inception and I never in a million years thought they would just rip the kids away and return them to a woman who is on parole the rest of her life! The rest of her life ~ for child abuse! Never. It doesn’t make sense. It defies logic. Just because she birthed them, she is now “Mom”???? This shit would be rejected as a television show, it’s so ludicrous! The judge never talked to the school principal, the therapists the children see, the youth minister the children are close to…nobody.

When did this judge get to play God? "The mother has the right to have the children back", some people would argue. When will the laws catch up to what is best for the children? When do the children get more rights?? Sorry Mom, you fucked up major. YOUR rights have been repealed. If you wanna visit, fine, but you don't get to try to play house again.

Case #2: The ubiquitous mother of 14. What the fuck?????  Forget her and her craziness, that’s a whole ‘nother show, Oprah!  I’m thinking of this doctor who implanted 8 embryos into this woman. She already has 6 kids at home under the age of 7. HELLO! He is aware of her history and knows that one has Autism and another has DD. HELLO!!  She is single and unemployed!!!!  IS ANYONE HOME?? She doesn’t have a home of her own. I mean, come on. So Dr. Stupid implants the babies anyway.

Again, when will the laws catch up to what is best for the children involved??  Because clearly there is a huge misunderstanding of what is “best” for everyone involved.   A dear friend suggested I become a CASA.   I don’t think so. I think I would walk into the judge’s chambers and do or say something that would land my ass in jail. The injustice is over the top!! 

 ⁸Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. ⁹Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

I'm quite certain that this passage of the Bible could be disected and studied for a long time. Each and every verse says so much and gives us a wealth of direction. If I were a tat kinda gettin' girl, I would have this inked on me somewhere. ;)  I long for peace of mine, not to be anxious about anything, and to remember to be thankful in every situation.

My weekly gift is my faith. And may the peace of God be with you all, too.